As parents, we can so easily think that our kids should just listen to us; we’re the parent’s after all. But, that’s not the case to winning your child’s heart as I’ve so quickly come to learn.
The Importance of Winning Your Child’s Heart
In the book The Importance of Winning Your Child’s Heart, Kathie writes and shares in such a way that it creates a safe and honest place where you’re not judged. I’m impacted by her ability to communicate what we all feel and experience. And then I feel such a sense of empowerment when she shares a statement like this:
Authority and rules aren’t the answer to successful parenting. Influence is the key, and that influence comes when we have their hearts.
As a parent, who hasn’t heard or used the phrase, “Just do what I say!” and expect our children to be obedient and follow thru because “I said so!”
I’m so guilty of this.
I want my children to know that they can come to me with anything, but do they really feel like they can when phrases like this are used?
As parents, we tend to use our authority to motivate and include threatened consequences, when instead, we could warn of the natural consequences such as pride, immorality and disobedience.
This quote leaped off the page from The Importance of Winning Your Child’s Heart:
The goal of gaining their hearts is not so we can control them, but rather gain the opportunity to pour into their lives, shape their values, and teach them to love God and His Word.
I love good tips that are easy to implement and create lasting change. Kathie shares loving affirmations and tips that you can start to do practically this moment with your children to begin winning their hearts.
In general, here’s a list of what I loved about The Importance of Winning Your Child’s Heart:
- Actionable ideas
- From a Christian perspective, but not preachy
- All the nuggets and takeaways I was left with
- Easy to digest and follow along
- Lots of quotes and resources
Rules without relationship breed rebellion.
I read The Importance of Winning Your Child’s Heart in no time at all. Because you feel like you’re connecting with someone who has so much wisdom to offer and the impact it makes as you dive into these words, you can’t help but keep reading.
If I could give a copy of this book to you, I would! So, instead, feel free to grab The Importance of Winning Your Child’s Heart and take in all that Kathie shares. You can get the e-book here as a bundle price that includes the book Parenting Mistakes That Push Your Child Away. (Check out my review here)
About the Author
Kathie is the owner of The Character Corner, wife of Alan for 40 years, and mother to eight children. She is also a veteran homeschooling mom of 31 years. Not only is she passionate about her family, but she also has a passion to encourage and inspire women in their daily lives as moms, wives, and homeschoolers. Her goal is to be transparent and honest about the struggles and challenges of parenting and homeschooling, as well as the blessings that come from being faithful to that calling. She loves to share insights from her personal experiences over the years of raising and teaching her children. You will find that she gives many practical, encouraging tips you can use in your own home. Find out more about Kathie here.
I’m so appreciative to Kathy for providing me a free copy of this book to review; it has changed my parenting for the better!